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Haze weather in Huanghuai and other places in North China continues to be rainy and snowy in Xinjiang, Inner Mongolia and Northeast China.

  Yesterday, light to moderate haze weather occurred in most parts of Hebei, Beijing, Tianjin, northern Shandong, eastern Henan, eastern Hubei, central and western Jilin, southwestern Heilongjiang and other places, with severe haze locally. This morning, fog with visibility less than 1 km appeared in Beijing, Tianjin, eastern and south-central Hebei, and visibility in some areas was less than 200 meters.

  It is estimated that from October 30 to November 2, the atmospheric diffusion conditions in central and southern North China and western Huanghuai are still poor, with mild to moderate haze weather, and some areas in central and southern North China have severe haze. From the night of November 2, affected by cold air, the atmospheric diffusion conditions in the above areas gradually improved, and the haze weather weakened and dissipated.

  Monitoring shows that yesterday, heavy rains occurred in parts of southeastern Guangxi, southwestern Guangdong and Hainan Island, and local heavy rains occurred; There was heavy rain in Tacheng, Xinjiang, sleet or moderate to heavy snow and local snowstorm in Altay. It is estimated that in the next three days, the rainfall in South China will obviously weaken, mainly cloudy with light rain in some areas. In addition, the rain and snow weather in Xinjiang, Inner Mongolia and Northeast China will increase, so the public should pay attention to the adverse effects on traffic and travel that may be caused by rain and snow.

  It is expected that in the next three days, there will be rainy and snowy weather in northern Xinjiang, with small to medium snow or sleet in high altitude areas and heavy snow in northern Altay; There is light snow or sleet weather in northeastern Inner Mongolia, western Heilongjiang and western Jilin, with moderate to heavy snow in some areas.

Sanjiang, Guangxi: Tea-growing Area Becomes Scenic Area, and Tea Mountain Becomes "Jinshan"

Tourists experience tea making in fairy mountain Tea Garden, Buyang Village, Bajiang Town, Sanjiang Dong Autonomous County.
At the beginning of the new year, in Buyang Village, Bajiang Town, northwest of Sanjiang Dong Autonomous County, Guangxi, the clumps of tea are green and dripping under the warm sun, and tourists and villagers walk through the mountains, setting off each other with Dong Village and Gallery Pavilion, which is beautiful.
Sanjiang Dong Autonomous County, located at the junction of Guangxi, Hunan and Guizhou provinces, has a superior natural environment, and is internationally recognized as a "golden tea-producing area". Its latitude and unique climatic conditions have given birth to "the first tea in early spring in China"-Sanjiang early spring tea. In recent years, Sanjiang Dong Autonomous County has adhered to the development strategy of "establishing the county by ecology and enriching the people through tourism", grasped the advantages of cultural resources and regarded the development of rural tourism as an important support to promote rural revitalization.
In the past, Buyang village was once a well-known poor village. "In the past, we used to have the saying that’ the mountains and waters are far away from Buyang Village, and there are women who don’t marry Buyang Lang’." Wu Ronghua, a villager in Buyang Village, told reporters that the village was relatively backward in the past, and now the tea industry in the village has developed. In addition to planting tea, tourism has become an important source of income for villagers.
It is understood that the tea garden in Buyang Village covers an area of more than 3,900 mu. In 2015, Buyang Village established a modern characteristic agriculture (core) demonstration zone in Guangxi, and the infrastructure in the village has been continuously improved, and the quality of tea has also been improved. At the same time, Buyang Village innovatively carried out the "three changes" reform of changing resources into assets, farmers into shareholders, and funds into shares, allowing villagers to invest in natural resources, land and cash, relying on more than 3,900 mu of ecological tea gardens in the village to successfully build a national 4A-level tourist attraction, and developing tea garden sightseeing, tea garden research, tea garden homestay and other special tourism projects, so as to turn tea gardens into parks, tea areas into scenic spots and tea hills into "golden mountains", and drive villagers out of it.
At present, Sanjiang Dong Autonomous County has 490 tea processing entities (cooperatives, family farms and companies), 18 key leading enterprises of agricultural industrialization at or above the municipal level, 5 key leading enterprises of agricultural industrialization at the district level, and 3 core demonstration areas of tea agricultural industry at or above the three-star level in the autonomous region. There are 317 registered tea trademarks and 300,000 tea growers and tea makers. The tea industry has covered 162 villages in the county, and 98 poverty-stricken villages in Sanjiang Dong Autonomous County have achieved full coverage of the tea industry, which not only provides solid industrial support for poverty alleviation, but also gives new momentum to rural revitalization. As a typical representative, Buyang Village, in order to further accelerate the transformation and upgrading of the tea industry and vigorously promote the scale, industrialization and brand development of the tea industry, has formed a whole industrial chain integrating seedling raising, planting, management, picking, processing and sales, and registered tea brands such as Buyang.
In 2018, Buyang Village successfully established a national 4A-level tourist scenic spot, Buyang fairy mountain Scenic Spot, relying on ecological tea gardens. There are many scenic spots in the scenic area, such as Four Seasons Red Maple Forest, fairy mountain Dong Village, Hongjun Road, Xianren Ancient Tea Garden, Tea Bathing Camping Area, etc. The Dong folk culture and tea tour cultural performances and tourism projects such as watching the sunrise in tea gardens, tea-picking experience, a hundred banquets, Dong songs, and Lusheng stepping on the hall are deeply favored by tourists, allowing tourists to enjoy the fun of tea picking, making and tasting, and at the same time deeply feel the rich connotation of Dong excellent traditional culture, forming an ecological, sightseeing and tourism collection.
"There are many tourists who have come to eat and stay here these days on New Year’s Day, and their income has doubled compared with the same period last year." On January 3rd, Xie Hui, the owner of Aichashi Hotel in Buyang Village, said that the bonus brought by the development of rural tourism in Buyang Village was hard to hide. "We also bring goods through live broadcast and sell tea online, which can earn more than 300,000 yuan a year."
Nowadays, Buyang Village has become a well-known punching point in online celebrity. Every holiday, tourists come to Buyang in an endless stream, and tea is very popular. "Now there are 15 homestays and 11 farmhouse restaurants in the village, and the facilities around the tea garden are perfect, which can basically meet the needs of tourists to eat, live and travel." Xie Xunting, secretary of the General Party Branch of Buyang Village and director of the village committee, told the reporter that from 2018 to 2022, the cumulative number of tourists in Buyang fairy mountain Scenic Area reached more than 2 million, and the total tourism revenue reached more than 70 million yuan. (Reporter of the newspaper in Guangxi Binyang correspondent Mo Qu)
Source: China Culture News.
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Light up the urban culture and enjoy the beauty of culture in Guangzhou on New Year’s Day | 2024 New Year’s Day Cultural Travel Activities

Southern Network News (Reporter/Zhou Cun Correspondent/Sui Wenguang Travel Announcement) During the New Year holiday, Guangzhou organized and planned a series of public cultural activities to celebrate the arrival of the 2024 New Year. Public cultural places at all levels bring splendid cultural feasts to the citizens, including exhibitions, lectures, courses, reading clubs, cultural performances and other forms, enriching the cultural life of citizens and tourists on New Year’s Day holidays.
Under the careful planning of cultural centers and libraries at all levels in Guangzhou, various theme exhibitions during New Year’s Day presented the beauty of culture from many angles, bringing cultural feasts to the citizens.
Among them, in 2023, the joint exhibition of Guangzhou Library and Guangzhou Cultural Center, a public welfare work of aesthetic education in Lingnan, which is a non-genetic study, focused on the theme of Guangfu folk custom, paper-cutting, arcade culture, South Lion and other non-legacy projects, focusing on the achievements of voluntary service of aesthetic education and cultural tourism. "Beauty of Porcelain"-Wenchuang Art Exhibition integrates modern elements through the re-innovation of ancient porcelain, showing the integrated beauty of decoration, use and appreciation of ancient porcelain.
During the New Year’s Day holiday, a group of people’s favorite cultural activities to benefit the people were staged wonderfully. For example, the 11th China (Guangzhou) Street Dance Trend Culture Season and the 2023 Guangdong-Hong Kong-Macao City Street Dance Competition, the "Dream in the Garden, Anime Adventure"-Anime Culture Carnival, and the "Chaoxuan Haizhu Dancing Teenager" 2023 Haizhu District Campus Street Dance Competition, which are deeply loved by young people, not only incorporate the trend elements, but also bring different experiences to young people and trend lovers. In addition, cultural parks, Lihu, Zhucun, Changling, Guanzhou, Lianma and other places held performances to benefit the people on New Year’s Day, creating a happy and peaceful New Year atmosphere.
During the New Year’s Day holiday, major libraries enrich the cultural service experience in the form of classic reading sessions, poetry reading sessions, and experience sharing sessions, so that citizens can share the pleasure of reading. Panyu 365, with a long rhyme, welcomes the new year —— Panyu 2024 New Year Music Poetry Club, which integrates the concept of "Guangdong Music+",combines traditional culture with New Year’s festive elements, and displays the cultural atmosphere of every family in Panyu reciting poems in a parent-child way, making the local accent "new" and "heart-warming". The 2024 Welcome Poetry Meeting of Huangpu District Library "Innocent Children’s Rhyme with Fragrant Snow" will greet the new year with poems recalling innocent childhood memories.
Guangzhou also organizes various cultural interactive experience activities for citizens to personally participate in and feel the charm of traditional culture. Health preserving in TCM-making experience of Chinese herbal sachets, fruitful welcome to the New Year-activities such as colorful drawing experience, reading Huangpu creative handmade DIY New Year greeting cards, weaving Chinese knots to send blessings on New Year’s Day, and professional experience camp for little librarians were launched one after another during New Year’s Day, creating a strong festive atmosphere.
It is reported that in order to meet the diverse reading needs of citizens and tourists, libraries at all levels in Guangzhou provide citizens with more convenient reading services and richer reading resources during the New Year holiday. For example, Guangzhou Children’s Library’s Shuxiangmen "hands in" and enjoys reading-"Booking books to deliver books to your door" New Year’s Day activities can deliver books to your door for free. Huangpu District Library integrates public cultural services into all kinds of high-tech enterprises through the brand activity of "Huangpu has a story", and invites relevant experts, scholars and entrepreneurs to enter the library to share their work experience, social experience and life sentiment in Huangpu and show Huangpu’s unique cultural heritage.
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This special fund was distributed before New Year’s Day, benefiting many enterprises.

Wu Han, a journalist with extreme eyes

Correspondent Wang Wei

The statistician of Hubei Shilixiang Liquor Co., Ltd. was very happy to receive the statistical subsidy before New Year’s Day. She thanked the relevant person in charge of Xujiapeng Street in Wuchang District, Wuhan. "We must cooperate with the street economic work well and realize the two-way trip together."

Before New Year’s Day, Xujiapeng Street distributed statistical subsidies to the "four-up" enterprises within its jurisdiction, and the Commissioner was responsible for distributing them to the personal accounts of enterprise statisticians.

Since the beginning of this year, Xujiapeng Street has built a high-quality and professional statistical team with proficient business, served enterprises with sincerity, and strived to optimize the business environment. Each community has identified a full-time and part-time statistician, who also serves as a community census instructor or enumerator when conducting various census work. Each enterprise has appointed a person in charge of statistics and equipped a full-time (part-time) statistician to fill in relevant statistical reports in time.

Street joint relevant units, community, enterprise statistical business training, strengthen the guidance of grassroots statisticians report, improve the accuracy of statistical data reporting, to ensure the authenticity of the source data. At the same time, publicize and support the policies and measures to help enterprises, understand the production and operation difficulties and statistical problems of enterprises, and make overall plans to do a good job in enterprise service.

(Source: Jimu News)

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Under the lens of Glory V30 PRO, take you to experience a different Christmas.

[PConline professional evaluation] jingle, jingle, jingle. When this song started, my first reaction was that Christmas was coming. As one of the most influential festivals in the west, everyone will carefully decorate a huge Christmas tree as a facade, dress up as Santa Claus to give gifts to children, and let the joy continue at the last minute of this year.
And in Guangzhou, which place has the most Christmas holiday atmosphere? Therefore, after a series of searching and exploring, we came to the famous buildings in Guangzhou, Sacred Heart Cathedral and Tianhui Square. Of course, there is also the glory V30 PRO that you carry with you. Under its lens, it will take you to take a different Christmas.
Record video all the time:
First stop: Shishi church
Guangzhou Shishi Sacred Heart Cathedral, located in Yide Road, Guangzhou, officially opened the foundation stone laying ceremony on June 18th, 1863. Guangzhou Shishi Sacred Heart Cathedral is the largest Catholic church in the suburbs of Guangzhou, and it is also one of the only remaining Gothic buildings with two minarets in China.
The stone church is also one of the only four Gothic church buildings with all-stone structure in the world, and was listed as a national key cultural relic protection unit in 1996.
Let’s take a look at the photo proofs of the glory V30 PRO stone church. The Matrix camera multi-dimensional camera matrix of Glory V30 PRO consists of a 40-megapixel Sony IMX 600 main camera, a 12-megapixel focus plane and an 8-megapixel telephoto lens. Let’s provide richer shooting techniques when shooting the stone church, and with the help of AI scene recognition function, the picture will be more colorful.
In the aspect of ultra-wide-angle camera, Glory V30 Pro uses 12 million focus plane, supports 109 ultra-wide-angle photography, and has 1.4μm super-large photosensitive pixels, which makes the picture wider and deeper.
Second stop: Tianhui Square
Just after the trip to Shishi Church, we came to Tianhui Square, the holiest place for punching cards in online celebrity. IGC of Tianhui Plaza, which opened just over a year ago, has gathered nearly 200 fashion brands to settle here.
Let’s take a look at the shooting picture of Glory V30 PRO. This Sony IMX 600 sensor with a main camera of 40 million pixels does not have the traditional RGGB arrangement, but adopts a brand new RYYB arrangement. Using RYYB super-photosensitive arrangement, the incoming light of the sensor can be increased by 40%, reaching the maximum limit ISO; of 409,600. With the oversized F/1.6 aperture, let the glory V30 PRO shoot Christmas at night, making the beautiful scenery more natural and transparent.
F/1.6 super-large aperture, coupled with RYYB arranged sensors, combined with AIS handheld super night view function of glory V30 PRO, not only can you get photos with little noise and slight smearing feeling, but you can still control the quality of the picture and control the bright part, so that the picture can still glow at night.
Especially for the changeable lights, as long as the right shutter timing is found, not only can the brightness of the instantly highlighted lights be ensured to be appropriate, but also the details of the picture can be kept more, and the brilliance is naturally rich, so that night shooting is no longer a problem.
In addition to the excellent super-sensitive AI three shots, the glory V30 PRO also has a combination of 32 million high-definition main shots and 8 million super wide angles. Support intelligent beauty algorithm, automatically fill the light, even in the dark, through the portrait super night scene mode, multi-layer background light reconstruction, in Christmas Eve, you can also be as dazzling as the beautiful scenery.
Video experience
In addition to taking pictures, we also took a video with the camera. Record the Sacred Heart Cathedral in Shishi and Tianhui Square under the lens of Glory V30 PRO.
The Glory V30 Pro uses a customized sensor with a ratio of 16: 9, with a 109 customized super wide-angle camera, hardware-level HDR, 4cm super macro, and five-axis intelligent anti-shake stabilization system, which makes you more natural when shooting Christmas vlog. In our whole hand-held glory V30 PRO shooting, there is no anti-shake stabilizer, its performance is still stable, and the picture has no obvious jitter. Especially in the night scene shooting of Tianhui Square in the second half, Glory V30 PRO has ultra-high sensitivity, improves the brightness of dark parts, intelligently controls noise, and makes the picture richer and more diverse. With it, it is easier to shoot at night.
There is also a powerful computing power blessing of Kirin 990 5G. Glory V30 PRO can perform real-time color rendering and real-time beauty during video shooting, even the AI ? ? portrait color retention that could only be completed by green cloth and professional later stage. This technique can color the picture in real time according to AI intelligence, which saves the time for your later transformation, and it is also easy to shoot a large landscape by coloring "Xiaobai". In addition, the glory V30 PRO also supports an auto-zoom macro lens with a focus distance of up to 4cm. 4cm macro video can help us capture clearer details and experience more detailed beauty when shooting flowers and plants.
summary
After this series of tests, glory V30 PRO does have its own set of skills in real shooting performance. During the day, the picture proofs of the stone church are clear and natural, and there is no excessive pursuit of sharp saturation; At night, the picture sample of Tianhui Square is not afraid of noise, and it uses excellent hardware and excellent software to control and help you record the Christmas night scene. In addition, there are 12 million focus plane blessings, making video shooting more handy.
Christmas is coming, elaborate Christmas tree, flashing neon lights. Such colorful scenery, please remember to pick up the glory V30 PRO to record the last beauty of this year.
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Awesome! These five people will go to Lyon, France to compete in the World Skills Competition.

Recently, the State Ministry of Human Resources and Social Security issued the List of Leaders of the Technical Guidance Expert Group of China in the 47th World Skills Competition and the Notice on the List of China Training Teams in the 47th World Skills Competition.

Among them, Zhao Changheng, a professor at the School of Life and Environment of Huangshan University, was selected as the leader of the China Technical Guidance Expert Group for the Horticulture Project of the 47th World Skills Competition, and Liu Yuanyuan, an associate professor at the Art College, was selected as the leader of the China Technical Guidance Expert Group for the Paint and Decoration Project of the 47th World Skills Competition.

Students from the School of Life and Environmental Sciences of Huangshan University, Yan Zhiguang and Gan Zhaoci, gold medalists in horticulture of the 2nd National Vocational Skills Competition, and Zhang Xiaofei, a student from Art College and gold medalist in painting and decoration of the 2nd National Vocational Skills Competition, were successfully selected into the China Training Team of the 47th World Skills Competition to prepare for the 47th World Skills Competition.

It is reported that 335 people were selected for the China Training Team of the 47th World Skills Competition according to the results of the selection events of the 2nd World Vocational Skills Competition in People’s Republic of China (PRC), the ranking of the first stage assessment (national trials of network security projects) of the 46th World Skills Competition and the age requirements of the world skills organizations for the contestants of the 47th World Skills Competition. The 47th World Skills Competition will be held in Lyon, France from September 10th to 15th, 2024. 1,400 contestants from 60 countries and regions will take part in the 47th World Skills Competition and decide the best young skilled talents in the world.

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The 5th Hainan Island International Film Festival

The 5th Hainan Island International Film Festival, co-sponsored by China Central Radio and Television General Station and Hainan Provincial People’s Government, will be held in Sanya, Hainan Province from December 16th to 22nd, 2023.
Hainan Island International Film Festival (in English: HainanIsland International Film Festival, abbreviated as HIIFF) aims at "year-round screening, island-wide screening, movie viewing by the whole people, and the whole industrial chain", helping Hainan Free Trade Port to improve its cultural soft power and efficiency. By gathering and allocating resources through film festivals, we will promote world film exchanges and cooperation and create a professional, market-oriented and international film festival.
Organizer: Hainan Provincial People’s Government, Central Radio and Television General Station.
People’s Daily (19th edition, December 14th, 2023)
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What to buy for football: a professional guide helps you find the best choice.

Football is the most popular sport in the world, and it has a broad mass base, whether as a leisure or professional competition. If you are a football fan, or you just want to play football in your spare time, it is very important to choose a good football. This article will provide you with some professional guides to help you find the best football.

1. Material: The material of football is mainly divided into leather and synthetic materials. Leather football is usually more durable and feels better, but the price is also higher. Synthetic football is cheaper, but it may not be as durable as leather football. You need to choose the right material according to your budget and frequency of use.

2. Size: The size of a football is usually marked by its diameter. Generally speaking, the diameter of a standard match ball is 21.5 cm. However, for beginners, it may be better to choose a bigger football because it can help them control the ball better. If you are an adult or a teenager, you can choose a smaller football.

3. Weight: The weight of football is also very important, because it will affect your performance in the game. Generally speaking, the standard football weighs about 410 grams. If you often train for a long time, then you may need to choose a heavier football.

4. Brand: There are many well-known football brands in the market, such as Adidas, Nike and Puma. These brands of football have certain quality assurance, but also have their own characteristics in design. You can choose a brand according to your personal preference and budget.

5. Price: The price of football varies greatly, ranging from tens of yuan to hundreds of yuan. Although the higher the price, the better the quality of football, but you don’t need to spend a lot of money to buy a good football. Generally speaking, 100-200 yuan football is enough to meet the needs of most people.

6. Test: Before you buy a football, you’d better try it yourself. You can try a few kicks on different courts to see how the ball feels. In addition, you can also ask your friends to try it and listen to their feedback.

Generally speaking, it is not difficult to choose a good football. The key is to choose according to your own needs and budget. I hope the above suggestions can help you.

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She spent 3000 hours talking to 500 women in China and saw their most common pain.

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CoCo Lee died suddenly because of depression.

It hurts thousands of fans.

And let the public realize again,

Many people in life,

Is deeply trapped by depression.

The World Health Organization (WHO) published Depression and Other Common Mental Disorders in 2017, which shows that the incidence of depression in women is higher than that in men at different ages.

Among people suffering from depression,

The incidence rate of women is much higher than that of men.

According to the data(Peking University Sixth Hospital in 2019
Professor Huang Yueqin’s team published a study in The Lancet Psychiatry)

Female depression groups account for more than half of the total.

About 65%.

Psychological counselor Zhang Chun

Zhang Chun, writer and psychological counselor,

The concept of "female depression" was proposed two years ago.

She found that,

Of the more than 500 visitors she received,

Women account for more than 90%.

Many women are in ordinary daily life,

Feel a strong and lasting pain and depression.

Including Zhang Chun himself,

There was also a long process of fighting depression.

We found Zhang Chun,

Talked to her about this pain that belongs to women alone,

And try to feel sorry for this pain,

Find some solutions.

Editor: Zhou Tiancheng

Editor: Ni Chujiao

Chun Zhang

Zhang Chun started his own podcast radio station last year, and every issue will invite 5-8 women to chat, and the theme is often the little things in life.

For example, when discussing blind date, a girl said that she had a blind date, and both parents had met each other many times in four or five months, but the boy never showed up. This blind date is naturally impossible, but she is still thinking, "Did I label him like this?" Or, "Maybe he’s really afraid of society?"

For example, when discussing dating, a girl who is a screenwriter said that she didn’t have high requirements for dating, but 90% of the dates felt very bad. The men who come out often try to preach to her after meeting, "teach me how to write a script, or send me poems and novels that are badly written for me to comment on." But sometimes she still thinks, "Is it because I’m on the wrong dating software or I’m not good enough?"

For example, when discussing spending money, a girl said that when she was in college, her boyfriend overspent and bought an expensive computer, but accused her of spending money indiscriminately on a beauty card. "I just bought a computer. What will we spend in the future?" She went back to talk to her friend, and the friend was surprised and said, "If you love him, you have to spend money on him."

The women in these podcasts, like nearly 500 female visitors that Zhang Chun has received, feel the pain of "nothing is right" in some trivial matters, and they are very uncertain about their emotional reactions, and they don’t know whether they should feel angry/painful/uncomfortable.

She named this feeling "female depression".

Here is what she said:

In Big and Small Lies, women of different social classes and growing backgrounds are all suffering from their own hardships.

There was a lot of discussion on the Internet about the death of Coco CoCo Lee. Some people think that she is trapped by love and can no longer support. Later, a voice came out and said that she was a strong warrior, and the statement of "emotional injury" was underestimating her. Another voice said, why can’t it be emotional injury? Is emotional injury a shame?

No one knows what makes her so painful that she can’t fight any longer, and these discussions have become a dilemma of "nothing is right".

I have served about 500 visitors, more than 90% of whom are women. In fact, in the whole field of psychological counseling, more than 80% of female visitors seek help, which is an overwhelming data. The media often blame women for being good at expressing and telling.

In my opinion, the most important reason is that women are suffering.

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For example, I met a female visitor who was nearly 70 years old. She told me, "I used to have to wait on my husband and children, and I had to go to work. Now I’m retired from work, my husband is dead, my children have married and left home. It’s really just me now. Theoretically, I can do whatever I want. Now the question is coming, I don’t know what I want to do. "

Her more rooted pain is, "I have never done anything meaningful in my life, and I feel that I am an unnecessary person."

I asked her, when did you start to feel this way? Different time nodes may mean different situations. For example, if you are happy as a teenager, but you feel this way from the time you get married, then the problem may lie in her relationship with your partner, and so on.

She said, since I can remember. There are four sisters and a youngest brother in her family. She is the fourth in the family. Then it is true that in such a family structure, she will be regarded as an unnecessary person.

But when she was almost 70 years old, she didn’t have the strength to think about her pain. Before that, her time was occupied by serving others.

This is a typical pain of the previous generation of women. What about those young women who are well-off and independent? It is the same.

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I also have a visitor who is the only daughter of a wealthy family in her thirties, and her parents love her very much, giving her the best educational resources. After graduating from an Ivy League school, she went to work in a world-class overseas enterprise, and her working ability was very strong, and she was quickly promoted. So in the eyes of others, everything is fine. But on the issue of marriage and love, this level is still very sad.

She said that she couldn’t find a partner and her parents were very anxious. She felt very unfilial. And her request is two points, one is that she is from China, and the other is that she can support herself here.

I asked her, there are men from more than 100 countries in your working environment. Why do you have to find people from China? In an overseas environment, this is of course difficult.

She said that this is the bottom line for parents. Before, her parents only allowed her to find people from Hangzhou (her hometown). Later, it was gradually relaxed to people from Zhejiang, and now it has been relaxed to people from China. She said that this requirement is not high, why can’t she find it? Is it your own problem?

She has also dated some people, but she often feels offended on dates. For example, if the other party asks to have a baby within three years, and she says no, the other party will start to give her the cold shoulder until they are separated.

When two or three men have similar problems, she will doubt herself: Why can others find someone to marry smoothly? Is it not too much to have a child in three years?

When she found me, she concluded to herself: I have some problems in my intimate relationship.

She is not the only one. Many women who meet the secular "excellent" standards like her feel that they are too demanding and have problems in intimate relationships.

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Boys don’t think like this. I met an impressive male visitor. As soon as he arrived, he told me that his girlfriend had problems and always ignored him. He thought her girlfriend had "avoidant personality disorder". I asked him, how do you know? He said, I read it in a book. I asked again, how long have you been dating? He replied that they met on a blind date and just met twice.

On the contrary, women are always reflecting and examining themselves, ready to explain themselves. In the past two years, many girls’ awareness of female independence has awakened, which is a good thing. But I found that it also brought some new constraints. Sometimes, "independence enough" and "independence enough" will also become their shackles.

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I once had a visitor who wanted to have a simple sexual relationship with a man she liked. The man may be very sensitive to the inversion of this power relationship, so he asked her: Why do you only think about sex? Can’t we just talk?

This girl is very confused. She is very confused. Why does this sentence make her so uncomfortable?

Another time, there was a visitor who was a big V on the topic of feminism on the Internet. She has been dating her boyfriend for three years, but he still doesn’t take her to know her family. The reason given is that my daughter is not ready to have a new mother.

In fact, if you judge by common sense, you will feel that there is something wrong with this man. But visitors feel: don’t I have an independent will? How can you be coaxed by such a glib man? Of course I can leave, but when I leave or give up my intimate relationship, the pain I feel is no different from the past.

Many new standards have appeared, but the old ones still exist. They exist at the same time and run counter to each other, tearing up women’s self.

Among my female visitors, the only commonality is probably: living in the city and being able to surf the Internet. These two points enable them to ask me for help. Other ages, classes, identity backgrounds, etc. are really very scattered. It can be said that no matter what background a woman is, she has a depression that belongs to her and wants her to accept it.

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With authorization, I can share the complete story of a visitor. She said that she hoped her story could give some inspiration or help to others.

She was born in a big city in the north, the oldest child in the family, with a younger brother and sister. Her family is actually very rich, but this does not affect her position at home at all. She has assumed the role of a caregiver since she was a child, washing clothes and cooking for her younger brothers and sisters. If she doesn’t do it, it’s her mother who does it.

Therefore, she has always been unhappy, suffering from depression, and when she is in great pain, her parents have to take her to a mental hospital for electric shock treatment. Later, when she went to college, she went to the United States to study. She was temporarily separated from her family and made new friends. Everything seemed to be getting better. When she went home on holiday in 2021, she was trapped at home because of the epidemic and could not return to school for two years.

In the past two years, she has to continue to buy food, cook and wash clothes for the whole family every day, and her relationship with her family is still very tense. After an argument with her family, she found herself a place to live. At the beginning, she just told her family that she would go out for a few days. Later, gradually, gradually, completely moved away from home.

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Her move out also brought some quarrels. My brother quarreled with her and shouted at her: Do you know that your depression has made the whole family feel very uncomfortable? Why don’t you die? Something like this.

She gradually realized that it was impossible for her family to understand her. In the past, she was very painful because she wanted her family to love, support and recognize her, but she couldn’t get it. At a certain moment, she gave up this expectation and could only try to let her family influence herself less.

Changes often occur in moments of despair. She had a childhood boyfriend in her hometown. But her boyfriend told her to "stop studying and come back early to get married" (although her boyfriend wanted to continue her studies). Her boyfriend advised her that "you should come to my house for dinner more often and be good to my mother". When her boyfriend came to her residence, the first sentence was "I haven’t eaten yet".

She decided to break up with her boyfriend. These decisions are all made by herself, and psychological counseling can’t give her specific advice on what to do. All I can do is often accompany her.

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So then she thought I couldn’t count on it either. She said: although psychological counseling is useful, it is not the same as expected. I thought you would teach me what to do, but later I found that I had to do it myself.

It seems to be expressing disappointment to me, but I am glad to hear it. I seem to see her sprouting like a young tree.

She began to live with some skills. For example, in the past, when she asked her parents for money, she was always very guilty and a little vague. After that, she began to cajole her parents and fight for it. The goal was clear, that is, to ask for more and let her parents support her to complete her studies abroad and continue her studies. She did.

Talking about talk shows and practicing boxing are all ways for Zhang Chun to get rid of the existing standards.

I have experienced such a moment myself. I once suffered from severe depression for more than three years. I was so ill that I couldn’t get up for three or four days and couldn’t eat anything. But for my picky dog Dobby, on the fifth day, I struggled down the eighth floor, went to the market to buy ribs, stewed them in a pressure cooker, and the dog ate meat and I drank soup, so I persisted.

At that time, almost everyone around me was telling me that this was my psychological problem.

The way to be free is that I finally accept that "those people don’t love me". They often love me in a certain role or identity, an idealized me. As a woman who has been taught that love is important since childhood, it is very painful to accept this fact. But I think it is a necessary process for women nowadays to experience this darkness if they want to live a better life.

Home on Sakamoto tells the story of depression, pain and even loss of control of women as mothers.

As far as I know, there are some indicators for the diagnosis of depression in China. For example, you have been depressed for more than half a month, such as abnormal appetite and abnormal sleep, and there are some scale tests.

"Female depression" is a common situation of women. When you are in such an environment, interpersonal relationship and social structure, you may not meet the diagnostic criteria of depression, but you will feel depressed.

Now, after years of popular science, the public has begun to agree that "depression" is a disease, and it is a friendly concept to see a doctor and take medicine. But it also became a label. It seems that people need to be diagnosed with depression before they can get help, and then they can go to see a doctor and take medicine properly.

Home on Sakamoto Road

But in the case of female depression, many people need help, not diagnosis.

Postpartum depression has received a lot of attention in the past two years. But think about it, why didn’t anyone help them before the concept of "postpartum depression" appeared, and no one thought it was a problem?

When a woman is depressed after childbirth, she wants to jump off a building with her child in her arms. There must be two reasons for this. The first is that she is very hard and painful. On the other hand, there are some problems in her mind and her neurotransmitters, which makes her feel that this kind of suffering is endless.

Our help now is limited to using some drugs to improve some of her hormone levels, so that her brain can secrete more dopamine and she won’t have to jump off a building. But this alone is not enough. We should devote ourselves to improving the environment in which we live.

Love of a Hundred Yuan tells the story of a female son who is on the edge of society and has a depressed life. She begins to practice boxing, no matter how she wins or loses.

I have also heard about the "crazy literature", and many women will also tell me their own "crazy" experiences. For example, the girl mentioned earlier, her boyfriend’s mother urged her to get married and gave birth to a baby. When her boyfriend didn’t say a word, she replied directly: I can’t have a baby in ten years.

My recent "crazy" experience is that I pass by some men who pee on the side of the road every day. I decided to stop him.

At first, I was very worried. I would check and see that I was wearing a finger tiger and gestured a few times. I thought that if I did this thing today, he might hit me. If I do, then I must at least be able to return my hand, and I will give it to him.

With such determination, I walked up to him and stared at him and said, "Is this a toilet?"

Then there was no violent conflict, and it was really cool to stop him. Now I’m fearless when I try to stop those men who pee. Sometimes I just say "hey" casually, and they will run away in fear.

Love of 100 yuan

When women are "crazy", they actually give up an illusion called "giving up being liked by everyone". But many women are forbearing and careful, not to get like, but to avoid harm. After all, I just want to live well. This is our instinct based on years of life.

I once heard a visitor say about an experiment: if a mouse is given an irregular continuous electric shock and it can’t run away, then the mouse will soon be depressed; But if you let it get away once, it’s hard to be depressed. It has run away before, and it also believes that it can run away.

This experiment has given me great inspiration. When women give up the illusion of being hurt, small local victories can bring great hope.

Zhang Chun pinched a clay villain of his own.

Source: Weibo of Zhang Chun

1. You need to take medicine to fall asleep, which means "you can fall asleep". You need glasses to see clearly, that is, "see clearly." Glasses and pills in the world are for use. You can use whatever method can help you.

2. There are many ways to help yourself, which can build a new framework for understanding the world. Reading, exercising, gardening, etc., can be done. Psychological counseling is also a tool, but it is only one of them.

Believe that your pain is justified, and stay in pain for a while. Suffer first, and then see what happens. The most important and crucial thing is not to die, but to live again.

Zhang Chunhe’s own puppy Dobby.

4. You don’t have to be diligent, improve yourself and become a better self; It doesn’t have to be "independent, progressive and feminist". In fact, it is possible that you, who are lying in bed playing with your mobile phone, are already your best self, although not satisfactory.

5. If you want to lie down, play and eat cupcakes, how can you live? Believe in your feelings and choices, and you are right.

6. Stop trying to integrate and understand all the rules in this world and invent some new rules. I believe that the existing rules are not for you.

7. When you have symptoms of depression, don’t delay seeing a doctor. Depression can make people less active and less motivated. Observe the law of being spiritual and not spiritual, seize an opportunity, jump in the car and go to the hospital. Go to a regular hospital to see a doctor and take medicine.

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soccer

On November 1st, in the final round of the second stage (Group B) of the Asian Women’s Football Qualifier for the Paris Olympic Games, China drew 1-1 with South Korea, and failed to advance to the Paris Olympic Games.

On November 1st, China coach Shui Qingxia (former) led the players to greet the audience after the game. Xinhua News Agency reporter Jiang Kehong photo

On November 1st, China team player Wang Shanshan (right) struggled in the competition. Xinhua News Agency reporter Wei Peiquan photo

On November 1st, China team player Zhang Linyan (second from left) broke through with the ball in the game. Xinhua News Agency reporter Jiang Kehong photo

On November 1st, China team player Yang Lina cried after the game. Xinhua News Agency reporter Wei Peiquan photo

Source: Xinhua News Agency